I guess that got your attention :-)My two husbands
I'm going to share something personal...for lots of reasons. Here's just two - I'm proud of us. I hope if by sharing this, it might help others.
I married my first husband (on the left) right out of high school. We married literally within three weeks of my high school graduation. He was a few years older and had already graduated. A sweet sweet boy. We had a son 3 years later. I loved my husband, but I knew something was missing. My Daddy put it this way when I shared my feelings. He said "you can't marry your brother"...his way of saying that my feelings were more like for a brother than a husband. He was right. We divorced and it was hard, but I truly felt it was the right decision.
I met George...my soulmate...and we married right before my son turned 4. My first husband met his soulmate and they married almost one month to the day before George and I married. I truly believe everything worked out for a reason. We've all been married for 36 years :-)
And here's the best part. The reason I say I am so proud of US. We never stopped loving each other. There was no reason. We (the 4 of us) all loved OUR son. He lived with me and George, but we all had a part in his raising him TOGETHER and along the way, we all continued to love each other. We stayed in touch even after our son grew up, married, had children and moved to cities away from all of us.
My first husband's wife (I teasingly call her my wife-in-law) was diagnosed with cancer about 6 months ago and has gone through chemo and radiation. Like a champ, I might add. My husband George suggested we invite them here for a visit once she finished all her treatments, so she would have something to look forward to.
Yep, my husband is a good man. So they did. Last weekend. Just the four of us. And we had a wonderful time together. Seriously. We ate, clicked our glasses to many toasts, played games, toured around and went to church together. We had fun.
And I think we'll do it again at some point.
Life is what you make it and we make it GOOD.
LOVE and FAMILY is what's important.
I'm proud of us!
Hugs from the beach,
Kat
"Father, please let me be a blessing to someone today."
14 comments:
Such a great story!
How wonderful, Kat, for all of you. It doesn't always work out that way, as you know, but I'm very happy for all of you. Such a blessing for your son also! Thank you for sharing this personal story. It makes me love you all the more for giving us the opportunity of knowing you better. I hope and pray your wife-in-law will be well.
xoxo
You said it all when you said, Love and Family is what's important.
In the end that's what matters most.
Your son was lucky to have this kind of a loving upbringing. Where most kiddo's are caught in the middle of the hatred that usually follows divorce. He was loved by both sets of parents.
God Bless you all and prayers for WIL.
That is so awesome! You are all smart and sweet people to make those choices. Lucky for your son! My parents divorced after being married 30+ years. They met when my mom was just 14 and married when she was 17. They are still great friends. We have holidays together and everything. Other people think it's weird but who cares! It's what works for your family that matters. :)
I love that story. It shows what great people you ALL are.
you're lucky (and blessed) kat...as you know you are the exception and not the rule. i'll have to share my nightmare story about my ex's current wife sometime...it's really sad for my ex as he's missed out on so much with our children but it's been his decision.
In my first comment after finding your blog I said you seem like a lovely person....this proves that you are!! Cathy
Thank you for sharing that story! Your son has four great parents!
I hope you saw/figured out that I commented on your blog under my daughter's name (Barrett). She had used my laptop and I didn't know she was still signed in.
This is why I am so glad I know you! Gives hope to all that good things can come from what looks like might be the end of the world.
A wonderful story of how we all ought to live! I have a wonderful friend in my first MIL and my first husband has a sweet wife. My brother calls both my first husband's wife and Russell's first wife my wife in laws! That's funny!
Wow! This is an amazing story. Glad you all can be friends. Hope that lady is okay. All the best to her.
Kat, I love this. Truly. I wish more people would "do" divorce this way. You are one great lady!
Heather
Simply amazing, Kat!!
Your son is so lucky. And good for both of you that you could remain civil and friends. So many children experience the exact opposite and it just tears their lives apart.
Good to read your posts again, I had almost given up on you. Love those beach pics.
Pat
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